For non-Mormons interested in dating an LDS church member, trying to figure out the church culture can seem like a mystery game. So, what exactly do Mormon guys or girls look for in a date? And what do they do for fun? You will be welcome at the chapel, and at any social events, and both are great places to meet people interested in dating. LDS Singles and LDS Planet are just two, but there are many others. If you join a site, be certain to be truthful about being a non-member. Honesty is valued in the church, so you don't want to start out on the wrong foot. Post a recent photo in modest dress and be candid about why you're interested in dating an LDS person in your profile. People come from miles away to attend because the dances can be huge especially in Utah, Idaho, California, and Arizona, where there are large numbers of members , and there are often many fun activities. Non-members within the conference's specified age group are welcome to attend, so if you see posters about one while visiting a chapel, or a notice in the bulletin, look into it and consider attending. There will be many married professionals in the group, but you might find singles as well or meet some great married professionals who want to introduce you to someone they know. The BYU Management Society has chapters all across the world, so Google it and add your city. You should be able to find a local chapter. Membership varies from area to area, but it's usually a modest fee and comes with some great benefits. Let them know you admire the type of people you've seen in the church and that you're open to meeting people who might be appropriate to date. What should you wear if you want to date a Mormon boy or girl? Mormons dress stylishly, and follow the main fashion trends as long as they fit the guidelines of the church. And yes, there's a dress code, but it's there for good reasons. The body is considered a sacred temple, and dressing in tight or revealing clothing is discouraged. Can you dress to flatter your figure? But leave a few things to the imagination. Females of all ages generally wear skirts when they attend worship services and yes, you are more than welcome to attend. The sacrament is quietly passed from pew to pew, and it consists of bread and water no wine or grape juice. After you drink from the small individual-size cup of water, discard it in the center slot of the tray on which its passed. You can also wear a suit jacket if you wish, but its not required. First, let's clear up one piece of confusion. Just because Mormons avoid some activities does not mean they're no fun to be with. Once you hang out with a group of LDS people of any age, you may find them to be as fun and funny as anyone else you've met, but also very considerate, caring, supportive of each other, and accepting of others. What do Mormons do for fun? Music and dancing have long been popular with church members, and if you're in an area that has Mormon chapels nearby, you are likely to find regular dances held usually in the cultural hall of the chapel for teens, young adults, and single adults older than 31. Music at the dances can be either from a live band or a DJ, and there will usually be some sort of snacks or refreshments available. The dances are free, there's no alcohol, and as is consistent with church policy people are asked to avoid suggestive dance moves and to dress modestly. The LDS church places a strong emphasis on marriage and the family. So Mormon singles of all ages will view prospective dates with the question as to whether they could marry that person. They'll certainly date before then, but if an LDS guy or girl has his or her heart set on serving a mission, they will not want anything to prevent them from doing that. Family life is very important to church members, and when a Mormon guy is ready to settle down, he will likely look for a partner who will honor his desire to save that part of the relationship for marriage. The same is true for Mormon girls. But don't be surprised if they want the standards of the church to be respected which include chastity before marriage, avoiding alcohol, no smoking and other teachings. If you've never heard that term, it will sound confusing. Families in the LDS church are considered eternal, and to codify that, there is a special sealing ceremony that is performed in the Temple there are more than 100 temples across the world. To attend a temple and be sealed, a person must be a member of the church in good standing for at least a year and have been interviewed by local church leaders to see if they have honored the teachings of the church. But many maybe most will probably want non-members they date to learn the teachings of the church before they get serious. This also helps non-members decide if they might be interested in joining the church. There is a short series of lessons about the church designed to help non-members understand the teachings, and your LDS boyfriend or girlfriend can help arrange them for you to take them. And they may want to move quickly toward that goal. Mormons deeply cherish the family, and will generally want to have children once the timing is right. Yes, Mormons can use birth control some people have the misunderstanding that LDS members are prohibited from using birth control, but that's not true. If you and your Mormon guy or girl are thinking of marriage, discuss the size of family you might want to have. It's not uncommon for LDS couples to have large families, so be certain you both agree on what you envision your family goals would be for a future together. Hi, I am wondering if you might be able to explain to me why being non lds hurts the chances that an lds member will date the other person. Is it truly something that breaks the mold for a member to like a non member. I'm sorry to say that a person I know was going out with a girl who was lds and she dated a different lds guy instead. Just because he was lds he was the better option I guess, it just makes me sad because she really liked him but being a non lds member ruined any chances he had. I've seen this in areas outside of Utah, where the demographics including ancestry are quite different than in SLC - it's built into the way the church is organized, from what I can tell. Perhaps much of it came from the heritage you mentioned and the church was infused with it, but it surely is systemic. Thanks for reading and for your interesting comment! Utah Mormons can be a lot different than other Mormons. There are many reasons for this. One reason is Utah has a strong Danish heritage. Most Utahns do not know about their Danish heritage but it is there. There are more Jensens in the phone book than Smiths. This hub, girlfriend, has taken on a whole new meaning..... HOLY you know what!...... However, Miss Arias, being of VERY unsound mind, surely had NO BUSINESS becoming involved with the Mormon Church! Actually this makes being a Mormon, no different than other organized religions, in all honesty. Due to the Religion of my parents..... I was baptized as an infant. This case resumes in July, with the selection of a new jury for the penalty phase. Just a gross waste of time, effort and tax dollars. The girl is S-I-C-K....... What say you, Marcy?? If so, I know a jury in Arizona, you can sit on!...... I'm glad you enjoyed meeting others in the church, and I'm thrilled he wants to stay in touch while he's on his mission. Guys may now go at age 18, so that speeds things up a bit. I hope you'll visit some worship services, too - everyone is welcome to attend. That will give you an idea of whether you might be interested in joining the church, as well. Be sure to let me know how it goes! Thanks for the update, Angel, you made my day! Are you under 16? If so, that could be a factor, since the church preference is not to date before 16. If you're near a church preferably, near his congregation ask him to share some information about the church beliefs, the youth group and other things related to the faith. That would open the door, perhaps, to getting better acquainted. But I do think he would welcome a discussion about the church, and you'd be welcome to attend youth activities if you're the right age. Another reason some young men don't get serious with girls while they're still in school is that many guys in the church plan to serve a two-year mission. And of course it would be tough to head off for a mission if you're heavily involved with a girl. Best of luck in getting to know him better! Let me know what happens? We should compare our ideas about 'sweet,' fpherj! I see your point - although I usually think of the Southern Belle as being a bit more contrived, as though playing a role. To me, someone who is genuinely sweet shows compassion when appropriate , and is tender and kind, but also strong and not a pushover when faced with hardships, which sort of fits the image I have of you. Okay, I will rethink how i am using that term. Maybe we need a few new words in our dictionaries! I suppose it's all a matter of perception, opinion and translation. I certainly like to believe I am kind, caring and good-natured... I don't even have to elaborate on this!!! It can be a challenge for a non-LDS person to date someone in the church, and it's also a challenge for an LDS member to date someone who doesn't follow the teachings. But it does happen, and as long as both parties accept the differences, it can work. There were many migrations to Utah from various parts of the United States and even other countries of people who joined the church and wanted to stay with the congregations that were formed. And, as you mention those were extremely difficult times, and the journey was long. It sounds like your family were early church pioneers - at least for that period of time. Thanks for sharing this story! I live in Central Texas and strangely enough my ancestors in the long ago attempted to become Mormons and hit the trail for Utah. On the way many died, were sick and their hardships were many -- so they consequently turned back to our little county and had to be satisfied with being Baptists the rest of their lives as there were no Mormon churches in the area back then. I'll let you in on a secret - nobody lives up to everything - all anyone can do it to try, and get up the next morning and try again. One thing I like is that the church fully understands we are all human, and nobody is perfect. And I've rarely seen as forgiving atmosphere as I see in the LDS church. I do know that non-members can be overwhelmed or intimidated by the type of lifestyle the church promotes, so I understand what you're saying. No chance of this being something for me to be concerned with at this point in my life. However, just entertaining this concept, brings me to a deeply honest confession. What I know of Mormons and their belief system.... It would be unfair and unrealistic for me to consider dating a poor, unsuspecting Mormon. 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