I once wrote a review about dating Indonesian girls and where to meet them. You can still read it here:? Most of the information on the review is still valid, but it certainly needs an update on the world of online dating through websites or social apps such as Badoo, Indonesian Cupid, Tinder, WeChat, Skout, Beetalk, etc. If you are looking for a great girl in Jakarta, online dating is by far your best chance. Another 9% is looking for money. And maybe less than 1 percent is looking for a one night stand not the hottest girls usually. The fact that they are looking for a stable relationship does not mean they want to get married straight away. It means they want to feel a long-term relationship is possible. For this reason, it may be more difficult for you to find a date if you are not staying in Indonesia and if you do not speak Indonesian. Depending on which website or which app you use, you can pretty much chat with any type of women you could think of: Students, employees, executives, single mom, etc from any ethnicity or religion. There is such a diversity that it would be hard to generalize. To give you a better understanding, I will describe the specificities of each dating app or website below: When Tinder started in Indonesia, most of its users were either foreign or Western-educated girls. Its base has now expanded, but it is still the most trendy app to use. For this reason, this is where you will meet the most girls who can speak English and who have well-paid jobs. This is also where the most girls are interested in meeting foreigners. If you stay abroad, this means you cannot chat with any girl in Jakarta before you arrive. It is an excellent site for those who are not in Indonesia but who are interested in chatting with local girls. Many Indonesian girls on IndonesianCupid are looking to meet foreigners and they won't turn you down if you say you are far away. The demographics of IndonesianCupid is more middle class compared with Tinder. Typically, you'll chat with employees, teachers, nurses, etc. Since it is a website and not a mobile phone app, I find it much easier to write messages or browse profiles compared to Tinder. Even if you use it for a month or two, it is still easy to see which girls are online among those you've chatted with before. You can register here:. It will also give you the edge compared to the other guys in terms of visibility. Ideal for arranging dates prior to visiting the country. Girls won't mind if you are not living in Indonesia and if you are older than them. It still has a large number of users though: I checked on 15 December 2016 at 7pm and there were 522 women online in Jakarta vs 537 on Indonesian Cupid. Badoo attracts 99,9% of Indonesian girls, from all background. You can filter girls by age, location, status, body type, etc. More than half the girls can speak English and many are interested in meeting foreigners. This means it is harder to get girls' attention and your messages may be ignored. Yes, Instagram can be considered a dating website in Indonesia. I know some guys who've met dozens of girls using it. Of course, you need to create an Instagram account and to upload interesting pictures regularly. If you are an expat who visits nice restaurants and hotels, it shouldn't be too hard to add at least a great photo every two days. You can then follow some Instagram accounts of girls you like and write comments on their pictures. You will also probably receive a lot of invitations from other guys. Girls using this feature do not always speak English very well. It is popular with the Chinese community but your chances of getting a reply is low unless you speak Chinese. Beetalk users are mostly Indonesian and young. If you use it in popular malls like Grand Indonesia or Central Park, it will probably tell you a list of persons within a very close range, sometimes a few meters only. Tagged and Hi5 are the same service since they merged in 2011. It used to be one of the most popular social networks in Indonesia but it is struggling now. It is still a relatively interesting website to try as the number of Indonesian users is quite large. I would say that girls on Tagged are usually a bit older: They made their Hi5 account 10 years ago and they haven't closed it yet. This is a paying hook-up website popular with swingers and those looking for one-night stands. I never used it but a friend of mine did and he met several open-minded couples. He also managed to meet a few single girls but it is rarer. Note that the website is currently blocked by the government so you'll need to download a VPN to access it. I've written an article here to help you with it. Being handsome would help. I met a few Indonesian girls, all students, who were using it. They told me the thing they liked the most was free travels so they could flood their Instagram accounts with pictures. This site is good for guys who want to have a younger and beautiful mistress in Asia. Since money is involved, it is not hard to a wealthy guy to find the perfect match. You will see that you get a reply for 90% of your messages, for instance. It is probably cheaper to try first. Works best if you are young, rich and Asian-Chinese : Popular dating website same group with Match. It's fun to have, though. They are many foreign girls using it, but most of them are located in Bali. Anonymous Hello Thibaud, some of your points are right and spot on. If i may add some inputs from my experience with those application. I'm a young Indonesian careerwoman with expat partner. Tinder The it application in my social circle. The facebook of online dating. I started playing after introduced by a friend and eventually met my expat partner. If you are looking for an Indonesian girl for sex, relationship or having fun together, you can find It here. But, for relationship, this is your best bet to find someone who is not interested in your skin bule! So what's the point? On the other hand, I know of several expats that got one night stands from this app and one who progress to friends with benefits. For stable relationship, I only know of Indonesian couple. OkCupid The Myspace of Online dating. This was the most popular online dating before the era of Mobile dating app. Now they moved on to the apps. Still interesting but you'll probably need to pay to get some extra features. We Chat: Prostitutes and ladyboys Beetalk: Most underrated dating app: Free, lots of normal girls from all walks of life. To work you just need to add as many girls as possible in your vicinity. I get about 10% acceptance rate. Big problem is that many girls cannot speak good english on Beetalk. The other dating sites: scams. Online dating in Indonesia is ruined by all the prostitution. Now on Badoo you have at least 50% of the girls who are looking for money. The rest is either ugly, fat or they wear jilbab. No more dating apps for me, I just go meet girls in malls, nothing easier you just need to smile and say hi. Most girls are very friendly and will give their numbers easily. Example, Paktor, after some initial success, suddenly made all the girls who like me only unlockable if I pay to see them. I know this after realizing it for some time. And non paying users are put very rarely for someone think view. It also notifies you that someone likes you with a blurred photo while tinder doesn't. Anonymous I tried SweetRing recently, its a Taiwan based dating apps. Its quite good to be honest,you have to pay of course to get several features but i think it worth the price. Many girl used it because its free, but as a man you have to pay. Girls like this apps because they think you are serious because you have to pay to chat with them of course lol so if you want to pay to get a match, this apps is pretty good. Intelligent, well educated, good cook, fluently in English and Spanish. She came from lower class but she made her self beyond compare. We r moved to England now and she is getting accepted in to Cambridge for her masters degree. Try it and it is free. If you're in Jakarta for more than a month then you don't need online dating. It's one of the easiest cities in the world for an expat to get a local girlfriend, provided you look half-decent. Indos tend to be very friendly and sociable folk, and provided you're polite and poses halfway decent chat, you can meet girls easy in malls, cafes, bars even supermarkets. Just be aware local girlfriends tend to require you to have deep pockets. They'll expect to be wined and dined every weekend and I've yet to hear of one prepared to put her hand in her pocket for anything. You may get the odd local trinket, but you'll be expected to return that x100. Suggesting a quiet night in watching movies on a weekend probably won't cut it either. She'll suddenly be busy and off out to one of the usual haunts looking to trade you up for a more sociable model. Anonymous The girls you meet in nightclubs and the girls you meet online are very different. I have met few girls online yes they were all money oriented but all had a BF for sure.. I think some of the messages you receive are sent by Paktor to encourage you to subscribe.. If the girl is sending you long, enthusiastic sentences, you can assume it's a bot and not a real girl... If you decide to pay the Rp250,000, please come leave a feedback here bout whether it's worth it or not... Anonymous Hi, I'm looking for a fuck buddy or one night stand, preferably 'bule', no string attached, no personal info sharing, no drama, and no money involved. Should you a healthy 'bule' interested, do contact me at letswearnothing gmail. Used it 2 years ago successfully in Philippines for finding a sexing travel mate. Today it became a real pain in the ass. They block you for anything suspicious, e. I sent a link to my photo in external page twice because of their annoying photo acceptance policy and I got banned. Then they have sophisticated bots to detect any new account so you need to have other IP, other photo, other SIM card etc. As it is a dating site, this is rather funny. Even if I talk to them for a longer time who knows what the policy is if you ask for more than 1 girls contacts. They also have in their rules that you cannot look for girls for flirting so who knows what the administrator will think. When they ban you all work is gone. Even when it is virtually free it costs you too much effort. From what I read above I am going to try the IndonesianCupid as I need to get the girl before I travel to Jakarta. So Tinder is not the way to go for me probably. If anyone has any tips for me or wants to exchange experience, let me know at jedenkluk gmail. Anonymous Because of sex tourist sites like this, the scene is getting more ruined every year. Im not here for that. Dont waste your and my time. Because of a few guys who want to be a smartass with his website, the whole scene gets destroyed. Think about when you will be 50 and want to sexpat in Asia, it wont be there anymore because you contributed spilled the beans as a 30 y old just to make a few affiliate links... Also, sites like that attract masses of arabs, pakis, turks etc who are even more desperate for sex than the french and italians and contribute to ruin the place. Jakarta sex scene now is already a shadow of what it was 15 years ago.