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I'd paved the way by telling him that I had something that was profoundly important that I needed to tell him- and I asked if he'd be okay with my writing to him vs. sitting and talking initially. He was beside himself with the anxiety of waiting for the letter, but again, for us, it worked well.

Now- don't think that it was all roses from there. He was very accepting of my revelations, but putting these new ideas into practice was another thing altogether.

We developed new communication tools that had never been present in our marriage before. We wrote down our thoughts and fears to one another, UNTIL we became comfortable talking about this most personal topic.

Hope things work out well for you Summer. Good luck!

by fulghum21 on 2005 Jan 18 - 23:33 | reply to this comment
Thank you!
Hi,

Thank you fulghum21 and Max for your words of encouragment. I did in fact take the plunge Friday night. I was going to write him a letter, but as things turned out I did not need to. We were talking on the phone and we ended up on the talking about sex, so I just went from there and it was easier than I thought only because of the fact that we had done it during sex.

He was very supportive and liked the idea of being HOH (I will still be handling the finances though as he does not wish to and is lousy with money-lol). We talked very openly about it and started laying down some ground rules, those being things that we want, need and expect from eachother. As I told him, I know that we will go through a trial and error period, but that we will get through it. It will take some time for it to become natural and second nature to us.